|
Hi Zenith Catcher, Not wanting to please everyone was one of the behavioral traits that served me well over the past years. Sometimes it’s appropriate to stand up, leave your agreeable nature behind and be more disagreeable. The world is cruel. You need to be prepared for war. You don’t wanna be a gold fish in a shark tank. This quote by Dr. Jordan B. Peterson drives the point home: “Everyone says, ‘Well, you should be harmless, virtuous, you shouldn’t do anyone any harm, you should sheath your competitive instinct. You shouldn’t try to win. You don’t want to be too aggressive. You don’t want to be too assertive.’ No. Wrong. You should be a monster, an absolute monster, and then you should learn how to control it. “It’s better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.”” And there are very practical reasons to be more disagreeable. Generally, agreeable people make less money in the same positions because they don’t negotiate on their own behalf very well. One way I think we become more disagreeable is actually saying what we think. Not saying what others may want to hear from you. Actually telling what you think to be true. Let’s end with this one: “When you have something to say, silence is a lie — and tyranny feeds on lies.” — Dr. Jordan B. Peterson
Much love, Nicola PS: Share this article with your friends here. Catch The Zenith PodcastI do a podcast where I pretend to have a Swiss accent (wink). 200+ episodes online about high performance and business. You can subscribe on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify. This week’s episode: Episode 212: Most people talk too much and say too little. But what if the real power lies in saying less? In this episode, I share the sales lesson that changed how I communicate: be concise. From cutting filler words to writing sharper emails to talking more confidently in real life. Listen here.
Next week’s episode: Episode 213: A new episode of my series “Zenith Reflections” where I share some of the lessons I learned and ideas I picked up. Things I’ve Learned This Week:1. Communication with Women One of the mistakes I used to make in the past (and sometimes still do) is jumping too quickly to a solution when talking to women. A la: “This is the problem, so we need to do X.” But women, on average, tend to sit with a problem longer. They circle around it, explore it from different angles, and only later—sometimes much later—move toward a solution. I believe this is especially important to understand in a relationship. First, try to understand her. Ask: “What do you mean by that?” “Why?” “How so?” Mirror what she said. Listen carefully. And only then—gently—transition to a solution. But not too fast. This simple shift has helped me communicate better and helped her feel more understood. 2. Alex Hormozi on Authenticity: ““Authenticity” is just a fancy word for alignment of three things: 1) What you really TRULY (and even controversially) believe 2) What you say 3) What you do And most of us don’t do it because we’re afraid of what people will think of us if they knew what we really believe.” Quote of the Week:“Here’s a psychological truism: tyrants manipulate with fear and compulsion. If a “leader” insists that the situation has become so dire that he or she should be given special power, the suspicion should immediately arise: is the emergency real, or dreadfully convenient for the proclaimer? Given the vagaries of human nature, a cautious and wise observer should presume: without certain evidence for the former, the latter should be assumed.” — Dr. Jordan B. Peterson
Video Recommendations: |
